Apr
My Grandpa was diagnosed with bowel cancer a yr ago and since hes 87 it ws decided he wouldnt survive surgery so docs thought laser treatment to try and shrink the tumour was the best option and it seemed to be working.
In the past month tho hes lost a lot of weight is constantly in the loo and passing blood and mucus…yesterday when he went in for Laser treatment they told him its gotten bigger and they only option is to give him the laser treatment more often.
So i guess my Question is this……Do u think theres any chance he can beat this or has it taken hold now….should we be preparing for the worst?
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hunny firstly i am soooo sorry about your grandpa.
while reading your post it made me think i got away from cancer.i am 42 and needed an ileostomy 2 yrs ago and was passing blood and muscus for 20 yrs.so i can understand where you are coming from.
the weight loss alone is telling you that things are not going as well as expected,and now you say the tumour has gotten bigger,even though he has had treatment.his age is against him hun,as the body cant fight it back as your grandpa is elderly.
ask your self if he is pain,and is bleeding,daily would i want to see him suffer anymore.
i know it hurts like hell,seeing loved ones go through such pain,but hun i would prepare yourself and others for the worst.
be there for him,love him,and think of all wonderful times you have shared.
your grand father has had a good life,being 87 is a damn good age,hold on to his hand,and help carry him through this bad time.
once again i am soo sorry.
xxxxxx
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I think this is a case of being prepared for the worst bowel cancer sufferer's have one of the worst 5 year survival rates of all cancers, given the age of your grandfather and the fact they are having to increase treatments the prognosis is likely to be poor but at the end of the day only your grandfathers medical team can provide you with accurate information based on the type and progress of the tumour.
my background is nursing.
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Im sorry to hear about your grandpa, but really considering the nature of your question I would strongly suggest you discuss the matter with grandpas consultant. Good luck
I am fully aware of the Data protection act…I assumed that you were going to discuss this matter with your grandpas consent…there was no need to be rude.
HOW RUDE…OBVIOUSLY grandpa DOESNT want you to know anything about his condition OR he would have had you in with his consultant…..what is it you are AFTER?
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There have been Cancer cases where tumors would be removed then grow back again, and increase in size. It doesn't necessarily mean that the 2nd time you remove it, it would again be a worthless surgery. It's very rare that the tumor grows back a 3rd time.
What I'm saying is, as long as the doctor still has ways of fixing it, you should try to stay optimistic and hope for the best.
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Im Sally, Im only a trainee nurse but in all honesty….it really sounds like its taken hold which at that age is often the case, being as its getting bigger its going to be even hrder for him to cleear from his system.
Im sooo sorry but I would maybe start preparing for the worst, but you never know, strange things happen
lots of love
xxx
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hi ya Tracy i will not beat around the bush,but i don't want to seem heartless, because was in the same boat years ago. they led me to believe my g/dad would live,all they said was he had a good life,he was only 65yrs.you need to start preparing for is death.I'm so sorry for you and your family,all you can do is show him lots of TLC.MY heart goes out to you.xxx
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My grandma had cancer and they did the same thing to her they are trying to scam you of money (at least that's what they did to her) i would try consulting a different doctor to see if it IS the worst or if THE DOCTORS made it worse
I am also very sorry about your grandpa.
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i,m so sorry to hear this but i won,t try and soften the blow, i think you should prepare for the worst…..my dad was 54 and my uncle who we buried yesterday was 68……you never know what life brings, enjoy every moment you have left. my sympathy goes to you and your family.
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very saddened to read this, i mate of mine has died recently of the same thing, and he was nearly the same age, my heart is with you on this, but prepare for the worst,SORRY
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With the greatest respect to your very sad problem, you do realise that anyone can say anything on here?
Consult his doctor about it.
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My Grandad died of Bowel cancer at the age of 85. I think you should be spending time with him now while you still have the chance.
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I think,you sould e..eh,how do I puy it? e..e.h.prepare for the worst. I mean,he`s already 87,
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I am sorry, but at age 87, even if your grandpa will be able to beat this disease, it will bring other kinds of complications. So be prepared for the worst.
I just remember somebody told me before that while we are young, we should be aware of some of our health problems, because they can get complicated when we get old.
I think that maybe your grandpa had bowel problems during his younger days and now it has complicated into a cancer.
Be strong, this is a path all of us has to take one of these days, it is a matter who goes first.
To those who have bowel problem like me, try to read this " How common is IBS" ( irritable bowel syndrome ).
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I'm not a doctor, I'm a nurse working in the operating theatre. I think by the sounds of it with his age and the nature of his cancer you should probably prepare yourself for the worst. I can't understand why they are using lasers? Are you sure it's not radiotherapy? Lasers are used to cut into the skin and is really quite aggresive and with it being bowel as well they couldn't pin point the laser unless the tumour was near surface level. The weight loss and the passing of blood and mucous are not good signs. Discuss it with his consultant we are really in no position on here to give you a 100% definitive opinion.
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Hi Tracy.
I`m sure you realise that no one here is qualified to give a medical opinion, but in fairness some may have been in similar position, as I have.
You have to look at the reality, your Grandpa is 87 years of age and his body is not strong enough to cope with any major illness.
Can you ask the Doctors to make his life more comfortable, as I am sure all the visits for treatment are not good for his mental state.
I don`t want to sound callous, butI in his own mind he knows the end is near, try and ask him what he would prefer, never ending treatment, or to be left alone and enjoy a pain free life.
What ever you do, you should prepare yourself, it is difficult I know.
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I don't think any doctor is going to be able to answer this question accurately without seeing your Grandpa and his medical records. If you want honest answers you should really be discussing it with your Grandpa's doctors as only they know his personal circumstances, and that will be what determines how he is and what happens next.
In personal experience though, we lost my ex-partner's dad to lung cancer nearly three years ago, when he was diagnosed he was given 6 months but went on to live a year. By the end he'd lost most of his weight, he looked skeletal, wasn't eating, he couldn't even get out of his bed. He was literally lying there for the last week, by Wednesday night was under sedation because of the pain, and by the early hours of Friday morning he'd passed away with us by his side.
And he was only 45, so I guess my point is I think you're Grandpa's done so great to have been fighting cancer for a year and at 87 years old!! Cancer's one of those things that grabs different people in different ways, sometimes we can stop it, sometimes we can't. The most important thing is to support his wishes, be strong, and know that when the time comes (and I won't lie… it may be soon), you're Grandpa's enjoyed his life and now it's just his time. Don't be sad, just help him in staying as comfortable as possible through whatever time he has left. x
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Sorry to hear what you and your family are going through. I agree with the answerer above that you really need to be having this discussion with your grandfather's doctor. That's who knows your grandfather's state right now. In a way, all of us should always be preparing for the worst–without focusing too much energy on it. It sounds like your grandfather has been offered more aggressive treatment, and that wouldn't happen unless the docs thought it might really work for him. Don't take every bit of bad news as if it's the worst. Just keep in mind what you might be in for, and try to focus on the positives. That would be my advise. Good luck to you.